By STAN WIEST
Member
Association of Bridal Consultants
That
wonderful, exciting flush of being engaged-every time you use your left hand you
can’t help but watch how the light sparkles off your ring. People you hardly
know are always congratulating you. What a state of euphoria.
But---Oops! Reality starts to set in. There’s so much to
do - so many appointments to make – so many choices to choose from. So many
people telling you what to do.
Everyone you’ve known has advice to give
usually in the form of “You ARE going to __________, really it’s a must!” Or “Oh, don’t do that – my cousin did that
and she said it was the worst mistake she ever made.”
Then there are the well meaning
strangers who would never tell you the soup you should try but they know the BEST FLORIST or the GREATEST CATERER etc.etc.etc.
Reality becomes a mounting migraine at
night when you are trying to relax or sleep-Forget it! These are the most important steps you should take to regain
your equilibrium and save your sanity.
Talk to
your fiancé, at length!!!
1.
1) Who does he
or she want at your wedding?
1. Close family
and a few friends (50-75 people)
2. A large gathering
(150-200 people)
c The Royal Wedding (300-500 and up)
2.
2) Where would
you like your ceremony to be?
3.
a. Religious Location (church, synagogue, temple etc)
b Outdoor location (remember
the vagaries of weather)
c. Reception location
4.
3) Where would
you like your reception to take place?
1. Country Club
2. Restaurant
3. Catering
Establishment
4. Public Hall
for hire (Elks, K of C )
5. Tent in
backyard (remember weather)
STOP
Take a deep, deep breath – slowly inhale and smile. You
just established the major playing field and established the rules of the game.
You and your fiancé own the team – what you want, what you say – what you work
out is “The Wedding”.
Ask each
other - what do you
see when you close your eyes
(At my reception I see
________________________________)
Many brides and grooms fall into the
trap of creating too narrow a margin of musical types because this is their
personal preference.
You may hate big band but there are at
least 50 of your 150 guests that love it, or rock isn’t your thing but there
are one hundred guests between the ages of 75 and 18 who want to rock the night
away.
What is the answer – work out with your
entertainment
1. A good mix
so everyone will dance.
2. On your
reception card let your guests know you are featuring a jazz wedding – or a
night of nostalgia with big band sounds or any specialty of your liking.
If you inform your guests of the music
program for the night you will save yourself explaining all through the
reception why the Band or DJ hasn’t
played salsa or polka or waltz.
AFTER ALL YOU WANT YOUR GUESTS TO TELL
YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE WHAT A GREAT TIME THEY HAD AND WHAT A GREAT, GEORGEOUS
WEDDING THEY ATTENDED.
YOU REALLY DO WANT EVERYONE INCLUDING
YOU TO HAVE A SPECTACULAR TIME.
Choosing the right music also includes the ambience you want to establish at your
ceremony and cocktail hour.
A harp or string duo, trio, quartet is
most fitting for any ceremony at any location. You can add an opera singer to
the ceremony for that extra zing.
Next on to your cocktail hour – this may be the perfect time to indulge yourself “The Jazz Aficionado”
rather than at the reception. You can add jazz while the main course is served
and enjoyed. Then after the main course “Let The
Dancing Begin.”
Also during cocktails you may be
thinking of an
Your wedding is a team effort, you and
your fiancé are owner and manager – Speak to each other - first establish What
You Both Want!
Then incorporate all the team players.
Let them know the rules of the game and when there are those little glitches
that life throws our way and they will be
thrown let the right man or woman for the job take care of them for you.
1.
1) Employ the Experts – they do know what they are
doing.
2.
3.
2) Don’t exhaust yourself with seeing “everything” out
there.
4.
5.
3) Ask for recommendations from your caterer,
6.
music
company etc.
7.
8.
4) Don’t listen to all the helpful strangers
9.
(that’s
why we call them strangers)
STAN WIEST
(631)
754-0594
Email stan@stanwiest.com
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